Ecclesiastes 7:3

Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening ~ R. Frost

Whose woods these are I think I know.

His house is in the village though;

He will not see me stopping here

To watch his woods fill up with snow.

My little horse must think it queer

To stop without a farmhouse near

Between the woods and frozen lake

The darkest evening of the year.

He gives his harness bells a shake

To ask if there is some mistake.

The only other sound's the sweep

Of easy wind and downy flake.

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,

But I have promises to keep,

And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.

1923

Hello, my name is Avis

Welcome - here you will find a lot of senseless rambles and words from someone who's just kind of Going Through It most of the time haha. I have a blog, some fun pages for myself, and I'm the webmaster for the Christians of The Internet Webring. I don't want to define myself like this but I do have a lot of anxiety, especially social anxiety, so sorry if I... behave weirdly or am generally a dumbass. Genuinely I am just trying my best but I have a lot to learn in most areas of life so if you're bothered by something or want me to clear something up, please ask me. Probably I just made a mistake or I'm feeling strange that day I dunno.

The current theme for this website is intentionally cold and "stormy." I made it this way 'cause I felt extremely mellowed out and melancholy and didn't like looking at the pinks and lace of my last design - I probably won't change it for a while this time but I hope it doesn't seem too too sad. I'm going through some changes and I'll change it someday so have a look at the other things around if you'd like in the meantime.

Have a lovely day. - Avis

Weclome Message - updated to be less depressing 2025

About Me

I don't have the energy or care to write anything super detailed. Here's an edited version of some information, migrated from the last layout.

Some Basic Things
  • I love stationary, pens, paper, washi tape, wax seals, stickers, etc etc
  • Mt favourite palettes include greys, pinks, and creams. Lately, I've enjoyed gold as well
  • I'm a Virgo and Rooster
  • My migraines are always extremely light sensitive and I dislike unnatural lighting just in general
  • I really like the horror genre but you'll catch me watching Stardust and The Cat Returns for the 60th time in my lifetime thus far
  • I'm a really messy person but I also stress clean
  • I'm really, really chatty and bubbly sometimes and then sometimes I'll ghost people for months and months on end. You should make note of this one in particular if you're gonna talk to me
  • Try as I might, I can't help but wear my heart on my sleeve if that makes sense...There's garbage in my brain and you're gonna see it if you keep on reading
  • I have a hard time thinking and talking, like, with my voice-box. Sometimes when talking to friends online, I'll pause to write out bullet points and then speak; I'd like to be a lot better at this and be able to think properly, without having to write it out first

2024

Faith

Now for the most essential thing about myself. I'm a Christian and I've been raised in a Christian household all my life, though I consider myself to be born-again based on how I came to truly desire God and give myself to Him. I affirm the Nicene Creed as my statement of faith. I've gone through a lot to get to this point in my life.

Since I feel like it's important to note, given that a lot of non-Christians call themselves Christian ("not everyone who says 'Lord, Lord,' will enter into the kingdom of Heaven"), being a Christian means the following (as it pertains to political things that have caused arguments in the past)

  • I am against abortion in literally every single scenario
  • I do not accept outspoken homosexuals as "Christian" (and various other types of people who claim to be Christian but mostly those who believe the Bible accepts homosexuality when it very, very clearly does not)

That's all I feel like putting there for now, Idk what else really, I just felt those two specifically are important to note because they likely will be the most 'triggering' for people who don't know me. I do not want to make my website a controversial place but I also am a very social person (in the online sphere) sometimes. Do not get mad at me for espousing Christian values on my own website. Do not get mad at me for warning you that I'm a Christian and then being surprised that I have Christian and traditional values. Do not start arguments with me and if you do, I likely will talk about you and make a petty blogpost.

I don't like arguing; it makes me extremely sad and that's why I haven't been active on Tumblr. Part of the reason why I have a website is because I wanted to be myself without persecution; I am never willing to wash out what I believe just to appease some stranger. Unfortunately, in order to not compromise my faith as well as start the least amount of arguments, I need to be a little harsh in how upfront I am about this sort of thing. With that in mind, if you do want to start an argument, know this: I value my Bible infinitely more than your opinions and personal experiences.

2024

Once Seen, Now Real

This is bad. There’s a familiar, warm feeling in my heart; the breath of yearning is kissing my ear and telling me to take the bait. “You don’t have to deny yourself... You’re safe now.”

But am I safe? Can I know that I won’t manipulate and harm? I know what you really are. You’re a knife I hold close to my chest every night, to comfort me in its safety and cut me for pleasure. You’re a knife and you don’t belong in love. You don’t belong in my relationships.

See? Underneath all that you are still a sadness. “Will you please love me?” because a primal, essential love was not given you. You’re ill. You can’t see what good things you have; you are loved, though it is not the love you’re clawing for. Greater love has no man than he who would die for his brother and you have so many people who would die for you. Such things don’t need to be so extreme, though; these friends would house you, they would clothe you, and they will and are holding your hands to drag you from the mud pit. All you had to do was ask and the answer was “yes.” Such things don’t need to end in a kiss. These connections will end in a joy greater than any you have known in mortal life and not only will it be worth it, but it is worth it now. For the give and take and the opportunity to pull someone else out of pit; that is a good thing, worthy of your mortal life and it becomes your meaning. There is no meaning but to do good things.

So, calm your heart; with all the gentleness I can afford you, it isn’t time for such things and I am certain this yearning will be so much more beautiful when it isn’t a weapon. God gave you what you need—take it, and forge a different tool.

uh?

If these words can come out in the open, they'll be real and solid and it will seem more true to me. They won't be contained within me but will exist in reality and make it easier to convince myself of the right action. I've noticed that there's a lot of things I do that I did to protect myself or give myself hope for something better; I don't need them anymore and I know the ways that they can harm others because I have hurt others, when I didn't realize what I was doing or where it came from. I don't need it anymore, I don't need these tools I've built up within myself; they need to be thrown away, or rewired for a better purpose. I hope that makes sense, and if it doesn't, then that's alright.

12th March, 2025

A Different Place

Hey hey, I don't really know what to say but hi I'm alive. I'm at an interesting spot in life 'cause, Well, to put it simply I ran away from home.

I could talk about that in some detail, especially why I felt it was Necessary for both me and my parents but tbh I don't really want to. Looking at my past posts (whinings) I don't think I need to either; it was simply time.

And to be perfectly honest, the difference is refreshing. I've been lodging with a friend for a little over a month now and I've made progress towards getting a job, going to college, and driving practice for my license. All in one month. Now that I have the FREEDOM to move, I see more and more clearly the incredible rot I left behind. Things are still slow and I'm a little impatient - but opportunities for making movement and good choices keep opening themselves up to me and it's extremely scary but I hope that I can rewire myself, so to speak, to be a functioning adult. Good communication, lucrative skills, physical movement; all necessary things that I hope to cultivate.

I've also been going to church every weekend, or if I can't then watching the sermon online. I have...mixed feelings about it, about the church Dino's been taking me to, but it's new for her as well and the sermons themselves haven't been bad. She's also interested in getting me baptized and that's a separate conversation but I don't think I will, for a while. Overall though, it's been... My spiritual life hasn't exactly been better, depression and anxiety and GUILT are still things that really get to me but one of the sermons was about prayer and how to pray. I thought that was pretty helpful since no one's ever told me anything about that and I don't think I've ever even seen my Mother pray (outside of before meals). Anyway it's just..been helpful. And Dino is here too; I think we both struggle with this sort of thing a bit but she's reminded me to work on verse memorization and is the one taking me to church so that's cool. I can't praise her enough, so I won't; she's been an incredible blessing to me in ways I couldn't have imagined.

I can't think of anything else to say tbh. Things are just... Moving along. But actually moving this time and not me waiting and continually losing hope for anything good to "happen."

Webring update I guess - I mentioned some stuff in the neocities thingie but yeah more members and also some members gone. This is another thing that gave me a lot of anxiety actually (and tbh I'm still a bit nervous about sending out some emails I think maybe I should? Maybe? Do people get annoyed aboutthissortofthingIdon'tknow) because it was just. Scary to think about other PEOPLE wanting to INTERACT and be PART OF SOMETHING that I'm making. Now that I can talk about it in real life with Dino and other friends though, and now that I guess I've... realized that this IS something I need to take care of, it feels a little less scary to assert myself. Just a little bit though, I still have a long way to go as far as my anxiety goes (I constantly make stupid mistakes or just. sound like a dumbass) but I know it can get better. It's gonna take a long time but now I'm in a place where it CAN get better, truly, and I have people around me now who will help me if only I ask.

And that's another thing I need to get better at. But, well, one step at a time.

8th March, 2025

Holiday

I'm here to ramble again. All my friends have been busy or are asleep now and something unexpected has my mind abuzz. It's 4 in the morning right now and I don't think I'll be sleeping any time soon. Edit - six in the morning now.

I could talk about what the holiday's mean to me exactly but I don't wanna be a downer - but the worst things do seem to happen during this season. Maybe it's just seasonal depression and when you're lonely, a warmth and cheer that tries to overcome you can feel off-putting. I'm jealous of all my friends who, irregardless of the time of year, are spending time in the real world with people they love and trust more than anything. I get jealous often, actually; I like hearing what they've been up to and what sort of things you can do when you're not trapped at home with literally no physical way to be doing anything else (and I'm too tired to be playing video games all the time these days). Like... I want to do that. I wanna go... Play airsoft or whatever. I wanna go take a walk in the park. I wanna do something stupid like go grocery shopping and pick out what chips we like. But-

Agh. I'm doing it again. This isn't what I came here to ramble about.

I recieved a strange letter today, in the e-mail. This is gonna sound...retarded but hear me out. There's this website called Future Me (if it still is called that, I don't feel like checking right now) where you write a letter to yourself and they email it to you in however many years they set. Apparently 14 yr old me sent one to 19 yr old me. I must've wrote it today, 'cause, well, it came today. It's from the year where I had run off in the woods with a knife, aiming to end my life and nothing short of a literal God-spoken miracle brought me home and calmed my heart. I didn't have any friends back then, not even online ones from my online classes. At least... Not people who really actually did care about me. As much as you can care about someone from behind a bunch of words on a screen I suppose but that's a different conversation. The girl, a child, who felt so bad about everything that she really thought death would be better still had no one to go to even after coming home. This is starting to sound a little melodramatic but exactly how else am I supposed describe what happened?

The letter that 14 yr old Avis (barely even 14 yr old; my birthday is in September) wrote sounded... Honestly, really dumb, but what also was shocking is how much hadn't changed. The last words I apparently had to say to myself were "I don't love you but I hope you're still alive at least." What has a lot of this year, 2024, been if not a bunch of... flopping around, thinking maybe I should die instead of face my fears? It kind of sounds worn-out but I guess my worst fear is failure. I said I'd finally do it if I didn't pass highschool. Well, I passed; but lately I've been thinking that I'm a lost cause, that something is too ruined for me to go and assimilate into a life of adulthood like I kept dreaming I would. I'm just... So immature.

Nothing really changed. That 14 yr old hasn't really grown up at all and it's frustrating to be met with that reality (especially since my main method of getting these thoughts out is to... ramble into the void. That hasn't changed, apparently) when I really have been doing what I can to be better but it's hard to be better in a vacuum. It's it's really fucking hard when you just get beaten down and suffocated the moment you think you did something well, the moment you think you finally got a routine or you're finally waking up early and you finally did the house chores without being asked and you're finally on top of your homework, even if it's just finally for a moment, just to slapped in the face over and over again. How much harder am I supposed to try? I even tried communicating but either I'm so terrible with my words irl (I'm not sure if it's obvious but 100% more verbose in writing than speaking) or I really am just so bad at doing things that every attempt I made to try and bridge some understanding between me and my parents was met with offense or that it's all my fault. Even when I told my Mother I forgive her, she just... I'm getting distracted again.

I think I said this somewhere before; I'm not sure why, I forget, but Dr. Collender once told me that he thinks it'd be really good for me to go out and make some friends. He told me to get into fights, especially with other girls and have my hair pulled or something. I'm sorry for pressing on this point but, well, what am I supposed to do now? It's disgraceful to act like a child when you're an actual adult now. How am I supposed to gain the things that were taken from me? I mean I sure got into a lot of like... verbal.. (not even) arguments with like my school forums and all the pricks in those. I definitely learned something from those, even if it's just "don't behave that way" and not to be mean or something. It's only so much though and isn't all that helpful when trying to apply all of that to the real world. That's why I was looking forward to college, 'cause it seemed like a... Somewhat controlled, safe, way for me to finally learn some of the things I'd been missing. But now my Mother is telling me that I shouldn't even dare think about college and she'd rather see me buy a camper, travel around the US, and live by the skin of my teeth, somehow? It can't just be me, something doesn't add up.

As it stands right now though, I'm not putting any of my eggs into a basket. I keep thinking that some plan will happen or maybe I'll do this or that and it's just... So hard to move. [Munchie] (? a stand-in name, Munchie is his pet rabbit) and [Dino] (. she likes dinosaurs.) keep telling me to just focus on the one thing. Learning to drive. Everything will move much easier from there and I'm sure they're right. At the end of everything, I don't want to be 14 and stupid and sad. I don't want to be so stunted, and it doesn't matter who's fault it is 'cause now it's my responsibility to make better. Recieving that stupid ass letter... It's a weird sensation, wishing you could somehow go back and comfort the person that wrote that. I never understood what people were talking about when they spoke about like... their inner child or whatever and it makes me cringe to even say that. But I guess, yeah, I understand a little now 'cause now I'm being met and reminded of everythign I was feeling in that moment. Now I need to cast off that person but do so gently; I don't really know if 'healing' is possible because I think it's clear I hold on to the things that hurt me like some sort of .... I won't say it, but it's clear to me that I can't kill it. I've tried and she just.. keeps coming back.

My friends, even if I can't feel them or most often even hear them, they keep surprising me with their gentleness. In all the ways that I think I should disgust them or cause them to avoid me, they keep gently turning my head in the right direction. I'm starting to get tired, I'm losing my words but I really wanted to end this on a good note 'cause even with all my whining and probably pathetic complaining, I actually...Felt more determined to try again when I read that letter.

Not much has changed in my emotional maturity, I suppose, but a lot has changed regardless of that. There are people in the world who, despite seeing a lot of the worst of me, and who haven't turned away when I revealed worse still, are still around and I want to meet them someday. And I want to give the sad little thing who wrote that letter something better than a blank space in her future. It's not that she deserves it but, well, who deserves anything good anyway? No, she just... I, should be a little more gentle with what I realize now is an actual child who just doesn't know what to do but scream about the pain she's in. Me going through all these thoughts and thinking about it makes me want to read Dr. C's chapter about Respecting yourself (no, not Loving yourself, because that would be... a sin. Lol.) because the entire point about it is you can't respect others if you don't respect yourself first. Honestly he had a lot of things to say that I should have written down. Anyway the point is, and the point of a seperate conversation I'm having as I spend way too long to write this, is.. The child who sent me that letter, literally asking the future for help, should be treated with something other than resentment. I keep going in this cycle of hating myself and trying to change and hating myself and for all my bitching and moaning about MYSELF... I've never really done or tried anything else in that regard.

And the whole mention about Dr. C's book about Respect is just so I can frame in a way that I think is much more.. accurate. Dino tells me that I should tell myself that I love myself even if I don't believe it but I'm kind of uncomfortable with the concept just from a... theological point. How can I love myself? But I can respect what's happened to bring me here at least, all the people who've helped drag me from a cliff-face, all the teachers who wanted good things for me and did what they could to make it happen, and the little girl who didn't deserve all of that. That, and getting my damn license lol, is a good start I think. And it's technically not Christmas but whatever; I hope everyone had a good holiday with people you love and good food.

Sincerely,

Avis

Christmas 2024

Loser

Having some thoughts tonight, mostly in relation to how things are going. I also feel a little embarrased about the previous post lol but I meant what I said. Things suck. I feel a bit better tonight.

A lot of things happen in just a few days. I really took my Omnibus classes for granted; neither of my parents are spiritual guides (I've argued with them about theology more than I've ever learned from them, despite them being Christians as well) and I don't go to church so the only thing keeping God in my mind would be my own self and the classes I used to take. I used to go to a classical Christian school, not beholden to any one denomination but generally Reformed and it wouldn't even call itself "Christian" (which is a mistake imo but that's a completely different post) but a lot of my teachers were very devout people; theology majors, pastors or priests, some people with a PhD or two and they honestly should have been teaching college classes instead and getting paid more than they were. Not...teaching highschool kids. But they did because they wanted to, they really honestly wanted to impart something good on on every student they came across (I remember one teacher crying at the end of the year, talking about how she hopes we gained something meaningful from her class) and I'm certainly grateful. The classes that I'm thinking about when I say all of this (although theology somehow, naturally, slipped it's way into math and chemistry just because... Of course it does. God is in the details, right down to the molecule) were called Omnibus - a sort of mix between history, theology (and philosophy, by far not just Christian thought), literature and writing. Twelve classes in total (Primary and Secondary, I-VI), from Ancient times to Modern. It has it's faults, they were definitely not a complete replacement for formal, regular history courses but I wouldn't have changed a thing about them or what I got from them. Out of everyone who could have been lost, I think I owe my whole life to those teachers and everything else that's resulted from that school (even in the face of all the insane amounts of stress that I'm certain, if it's not too bold to say, a good amount of college students can't even imagine).

All of this is just to say, I really took them for granted. I never realized how they kept me thinking about God, seriously thinking and trying to figure it all out, from ages 13 to 18. How did I not... See this? How did I not see how lost I'd feel, spiritually, without those classes to look forward to (and dread at the same time, 'cause they were freaking hard lol).

During the last year of highschool, some pretty big mistakes were made on my end and even before the year was out I'd started to feel too ashamed to look at God. How could I, knowing that I loved the sin I found myself in and knew that I was going to dip into it again and again? I was also isolated from most of my friends during that whole last year and the previous, because my parents had 'found out' that I'd started to become more classically Reformed than .... Fundementalist Arminian (I don't know what the proper label is, I feel like that should give the right idea though). I was told that I was being lead astray by a wolf in sheep's clothing and the theology I'd come to accept was evil. Keep in mind, I'm not like... Progressive or "woke" or anything like that, I'm talking about normal issues like Predestination and other things that I just... Developed a different opinion on. I don't think the KJV is the only "real" Bible. They take great offense to that.

It's not like it's rebellion that sways me away from them and their theology. During the first few years of middle-school (or whatever comes before highschool? My schooling was Entirely online and I was homeschooled before it so I don't know like.... the names for this stuff), I was the first person to defend my family's weird beliefs, especially because it seemed that I was the only person who thought as I did. I thought this meant that everyone else was lost; surely, "real" Christians are actually quite few, right? During those years, I asked questions and got into arguments and berated my Mother with hypotheticals and "why do they think this is true?" My world-view started to crack when, as I was playing Devil's Advocate in a conversation with my Mother, she finally yielded and said something along the lines of "maybe Predestination and Free Will both exist, then. We can't know how it really works." That was an interesting moment for me because it allowed me to start and try to see some sense in what the Others were saying. Keep in mind, I can't have been older than 13. I somewhat-bested my Mother at a theological argument that I myself can't have fully understood (I was just parroting what was said, as kids do) at that age; I say, not to puff myself up, but to display how... Incredibly illogical my parents' theology is that I managed to twist her up in her own logic. Lol...?

Then I tried to kill myself at around Christmas that same year, I think. I only mention that because that's the event that allowed me to meet one of the best people I know. He was around 16 at the time and, apart from trying to trying to like, help me not be depressed lol he also became my spiritual guide. He's the only person I spoke to about all of this - I say with some bitterness that my father didn't talk to me about suicide apart from giving me some... mental health pamphlet. I've also mentioned how they really hadn't been spiritual guides of any sort unless I asked questions. I only had this other kid who was only there for me because he knew I hadn't a single soul outside of God Himself on my side, nor anyone else to talk to about all of this. (I mean, I had... friends but I didn't really know how to be a friend yet and they weren't really friends anyway). Anyway, anyway; he became more of a spiritual guide to me than my own father and he's only really relevant because I had an interesting conversation with him tonight and another friend the other day.

K, is what I'll call him (the first friend) has watched me grow up pretty much lol - with the sort of life I've lead, if it weren't for him saving my stupid suicidal ass on multiple occasions, answering my questions and even acting, unintentionally, as a force of shame, making me see my bad behaviour.

I can't understate how isolated my world has been. True enough, it is possible to live an extremely lonely life even when you are surrounded by people; when you are rejected by your peers, too awkward to socialize, or make too many mistakes -- if I may, that's a far cry from not even having the option to be rejected. It's been chosen, for me and not by my choice to just... Not... have friends. The only socialization I had as a small child were the rare times we went to church and even then we left right after service or weird cliques among the church kids would... look at me as if to say "you're not welcome here." But even that was a rare interaction I was glad for. Quite literally, the only outlet I've had to reach other people has been through... a computer.

Even right now, I don't have any "Irl" friends. I never have. For all accounts and purposes and people I've seen online... I should be a much more sorry person. I should be a loser, a creep, somehow more of a moron than I already am.

Quite literally, through the minor miracle of God saving my life (and gifting me a true friend after that horrible ordeal), I've come to be what I am. And I'm still...not...good. Just tonight, I've realized there's a few toxic things I do without even realizing it. Not like, "ruin-your-life-toxic," but toxic enough to be a problem I need to ponder and keep in check. My tendency to launch into a deep depression is possibly another thing that may be fixed if I just... go out into the world, make a friend at work (if I EVER manage to get a job) and finally learn, for real, how to play nice with others. Right now, I'd say I'm just a little to the left of what's considered "normal" behaviour - (or maybe "normal" isn't a good thing to be right now, given culture, but I mean like... decent, normal...? Maybe?) and I wish greatly to improve. I wanna be less anxious, I wanna be less lazy, I wanna be less depressed and casually suicidal, I want to see a future. Right now, with my life that has been marked by stillness and isolation, so much so that I sometimes feel that these pixels on the screen are more "me" than I am "me," it's so hard to envision a world where I even exist. It seems that I've not existed in the world at all, apart from the inside of people's phones and computers. I guess that's... Why I feel the need to say stuff on neocities, even though the attention I get freaks me out (even if it is positive). I want to reach through the screen and fucking break it. Somehow make real what has not been real. I want to exist outside of my brain and outside of my incredible yearning. It is so funny, like some sort of sick joke, how you can hate yourself so incredibly and yet... Hating yourself inherently means you view yourself as the center of everything. It is pathetic to behave that way, even though it is my go-to to scorch myself whenever I percieve my bad behaviour.

Ironically, throughout my writing this whole thing, I've been talking to a good friend of mine and reminiscing kind of. I started writing this whole thing 'cause I've had stuff on my brain and friends have been busy with college or work or school and I just... For some reason I've gotten to thinking how things used to be. How much worse I used to be, how I still need to improve, how things are with God and the people who are helping me turn my face towards Him even though I feel so wretched. I'm so ugly compared to Him, does he not cringe at my face? ... But it's my true face. Is it sad that I don't even think about reading my Bible until a dear, and very consistant, friend reminds me to and hounds me to do so? Maybe it is but it doesn't matter... At least I am. We can't even begin to talk to God unless we face His direction, though trembling and scared, a friend's gentle hands can start to turn our heads the right way.

No idea if that last sentence even makes any sense, I'm writing this at 5 in the morning, but it's just to say that I keep being surprised by gentleness. With the mental lashings I give myself and the unkind words that often vibrate through the air... God is gentle. Even my friends, other sinners, aren't disgusted or horrified by me. I went to one, in desperate need of help and I was so scared that he'd give me direction with a snarl on his face... But he didn't. And now we're going through the Gospels together; however slowly, at a pace mostly set by him with leniency for me. For the first time in months, half a year at LEAST, I've been praying more than for the food and reading just a little more.

I'm ending this surprisingly good. My hands have both a tendency to overshare and wax on and on about my misery lol but I feel... Tired, (lol) but also kind of at ease. The future is still..dark and empty looking, and I still don't know how to start moving, really moving to try and get somewhere other than here, but at least tonight I can truthfully say that I'll read my Bible after I close my computer.

Some Minorly Relevant Quotes...Both Paraphrased kind of

Your soul takes on the colour of your thoughts - Marcus Aurelius

How can we begin to talk to the gods until we have faces? - C.S. Lewis

Sometime this 2024 - soon to be 2025

Life Update? I guess

I don't even know what to write but I think I should write something because some individuals have emailed me, either to give courage or offer help with my webring and I see some activity on my feed in neocities as well. I'm really sorry for becoming a non-entity, the guilt and anxiety does eat at me but this probably won't be the last time it happens.

The current Ocean theme is because I've been feeling significantly down lately. School ended, I went to a party and had one of the best nights of my life and felt like the world wasn't gonna end, afterall. My hands are extremely cold as I type this. I've been doing a lot of thinking and I feel as though I'm at a stand-still with life in general. Still can't drive, don't have a job, there are a lot of things out of my control - or do I just not know how to take control? I went to England for a couple weeks and it was a supremly shitty time, London is Overstimulation Hell and I came back with food poisoning that I'm still not quite over after a WEEK of being back home.

When it comes to how I'm doing spiritually; I'm a spiritual vagabond. No church, family that doesn't turn me to Christ and often disregards spirituality or has mocked me and my efforts to get closer to God; no friends outside of online people who can't be here, really be here, when I really need them. Anyone. No one's ever been here in the way I've really needed them to be; just enough, just enough earnest words and sincere wishes to get me out of an immediately suicidal or extremely depressed state.

I may be stuck in one place but it seems I'm a wanderer with no goal or vision. More and more often I see suicide as the conclusion of all my thoughts. Right now, there's a kind of half-baked plan for how the end of the year will go and maybe it will go well, maybe I'll get my shitty writing together and actually make something, but even then I'm not pleased.

"Why do you refuse to be happy?" I'm not doing this on purpose. Or if I am, then it's because it's normal. This is just... the way things are for me, right now. I've tried to "make" myself happy and really, really ignore the quiet misgivings in my heart but what am I supposed to do when I'm just so fucking alone and have no way of making myself less alone? I make plans and things just sort of don't happen, either because it was a bad plan or something goes wrong or I'm insufficient or I'm too scared to act.

For right now, I'm just tired. Too tired for all the big things I wanted to do, too tired to get out of bed before 5 PM sometimes, too tired to even foolishly daydream that I might be worthy of love. Have I given up? A little bit. In a lot of ways. As I said, there's a half-baked plan where I'll clean out this one room in my house during the Winter and start trying to make something of my poorly writing abilities. Supposedly, shitty $1 fantasy romance e-novellas can make enough revenue to buy a camper and fund a life-long, "survive by the skin of your teeth" vagabond lifestyle. My Mother thinks that might be good for me though, I guess, and really the goal is probably just to get me out of the house by any means possible without leaving me homeless or at a dead-end. Which I'm not complaining about, I suppose... If I'm a spiritual vagabond, I may as well go and actualize that into reality. I already don't have a church so that's not keeping me to the ground. I already dream of running away and I'm being given a sort of shoddy 'for the foreseeable future' plan for that.

I guess my only complaint then, lies in the fact that the stars above my head, or beautiful mountains or sights to see on my travels wouldn't mean a thing to me. Why should it? Why should the stars hold any value when they can't reflect off the pit of tar that is my heart? They're glistening for a void, someone who can't appreciate anything beautiful in nature unless I can share it with someone I love and that's the ugly, selfish truth. But I'm getting ahead of myself. They're not even looking at me yet. I'm still just here; alone again, naturally.

Along Again, Naturally - Vulfmon

In a little while from now,

If I'm not feeling any less sour

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I promised myself to treat myself,

And visit a nearby tower

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Standing at the top,

Will throw myself off

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In effort to make it clear to whoever

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Just what it's like when you're shattered

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Left standing in a lurch,

In a church where people're saying

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"My God, that's tough," she stood him up,

"No point in us remaining"

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"We may as well go home,"

As I did on my own

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Alone again, naturally

Sometime this 2024

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